Now more than ever, The Stranger depends on your support to help fund our coverage. Please consider supporting local, independent, progressive media with a one-time or recurring contribution. Our staff is working morning, noon, and night to make your contributions count. Sporty, I don't think that is the problem, as I said in my post. It's not an issue of older men and younger women being distasteful. That conversation is just always brought to divert from the specifics at hand. What is distasteful about this particular situation and ones like it is the fact that the person is still high school age and the older man is dating her aunt and that it's taking place in her own home while the aunt is away, and the creepy blushing virgin delusional bullshit about real connections and the thrill of hand holding. If this were a 19 year old young woman flirting with a 40 year old man who was not dating the girl's guardian and who was not sneaking away to hold hands while those guardians slept in the next room, then the responses would be very different. As to particularly why there might still be some taboo about older men dating much younger women, I agree there is still disapproval but it's of a totally different nature, and I think Americans are incorrect about the extent to which this is approved in other cultures.
There is a world of difference between a (common) sexual preference and predatory fetishization
Savage Love Letter of the Day
Sugar babies are a broad industry of young women who offer companionship, and sometimes sex, in exchange for financial support from older men. Sarah Manavis spoke to a few about what they expect from their clients in return. And after dealing with some scammers and a short period of trial and error, Alicia found a legitimate answer to her problem. Sugar babies — usually young women, who spend time with usually older men in exchange for cash or gifts — tend to get a pretty bad rap. Students make up a huge portion of sugar babies in the UK — half a million alone are on the popular sugar baby website SeekingArrangement. She tells me that her future sugar daddy began flirting with her while getting help selecting gifts for his wife.
It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single man over 30 must be in want of a significantly younger woman. Just because we acknowledge this fact, though, does not mean we do so without a certain amount of derision and judgment. From the Instagram commenter who felt the need to remind Zach Braff that he is 44 after the actor dropped a cutesy emoji under a post from year-old girlfriend Florence Pugh to the collective eye-roll aimed at Leonardo DiCaprio every time the actor steps out with a new subyear-old girlfriend, the internet loves to hate an eyebrow-raising age gap. The problem with this narrative, as comedian and writer Anya Volz pointed out in a Twitter thread last weekend, is that it tends to paint men at the northern ends of these age gaps as inherently predatory, rendering the younger women on the opposite sides helplessly preyed-upon victims of male exploitation instead of conscious, self-determined agents who are more than capable of pursuing older men as willfully and actively as older men pursue them.
I could aim to take over the world and fall flat on my arse. The already-iconic album cover depicts a fully naked slowthai locked in stocks in front of a soon-to-be-demolished Northampton tower block. Instead of attempting to prevent his demise, his neighbours are pictured watching on, intrigued by the spectacle. For too long, he believes the British media has stigmatised teenage mothers, but he wants to be one of the people to help destroy this perception.